We sometimes use the term "stuff" to describe the
collection of things that we have accumulated over the years. A better term
might be "baggage" and it costs you a lot more than you realize.
Everything has a purchase cost. This is whatever you paid for it. But that's
just the beginning of what it costs you to own stuff.
"My
husband gave me a necklace. It's fake. I requested fake. Maybe I'm paranoid,
but in this day and age, I don't want something around my neck that's worth
more than my head." ~ Rita Rudner
I recently helped a friend move a lot of stuff out of a
storage unit. It's now at our house until she can sort through it and get it to
her house. That's OK, we like helping her. But it got me thinking about
possessions. They are really expensive and have many hidden costs.
Storage Costs
All stuff has to be put somewhere. Usually somewhere
protected from the elements outside. On the floor, on the wall, in the closet,
on display, etc. Then we get more stuff. The floor is getting kind of full. No
more room for stuff on the wall. It's time to start filling boxes and making
piles of stuff.
Then we acquire more stuff. Maybe it's something inherited
that we greatly value. It's time to get a bigger house. It's time to rent a
storage unit. It's time to fill the basement. It's time to fill the garage.
It's time to park the car outside because the garage is full. It's time to get
a better (but more stressful) job so we can afford to store all the stuff. I'm
not saying this stuff is not valuable. Maybe it is. I'm not saying it's not
important. Maybe it is. I'm not saying that it will never be used. Maybe it
will. Maybe it won't. Only you can decide.
Some friends of mine had a 5 bedroom house full of stuff
just for the two of them. It took some time, but they gradually got rid of most
of the stuff. Then they realized that the big empty house was a waste for them.
They sold it and moved to a much smaller less expensive place. Then their cost
of living was lower and they could afford to get rid of those stressful jobs
and work at what they loved.
Moving Costs
Most of us move to a new house several times in our life. We
have to take the stuff with us. We need a bigger truck or another truck load.
We have to pay more to the movers. We have to buy a house big enough for all
our stuff. What if we acquire more stuff when we are on vacation? How do we get
it home?
I know of someone that was stressed about retiring. She had
so much stuff in her basement that she knew would never fit into the space
available in their new place to live. She couldn't bear the thought of moving
to a smaller space. At one time I could fit everything I owned into my car. I
did and moved it across the country.
Opportunity Costs
Opportunity costs is a term used by economists. It refers to
lost opportunities when we make choices. I have limited money. Buying new
things means that I have to make choices about what else I cannot spend my
money on. If I buy a new car, I can't afford to take that vacation this year,
and so on. We all have limited money and we can't get everything we want. You
aren't going into debt to buy stuff, are you? Do you have any idea how much
THAT costs?
Like most people, I have some art on my walls. Nothing too
expensive, but the stuff on my walls cost me enough to feed a family in Africa
for months. Is my desire for art more important than the desire to eat for
people that don't have enough?
It's your money or your time. What did we have to do to get
that money to buy stuff? Chances are we had to work. We trade our time for
money. Then we trade our money for stuff. What else could we do with that time
if we didn't spend money on stuff?
There is time involved in taking care of stuff. If we own
stuff, we need to take care of it. Sometimes that not too tough. Maybe we just
need to dust or clean things once in a while. How much time do we spend taking
care of our car? Car washes, refueling, oil changes, etc. How much time do we
spend taking care of our yard.
Take a moment and think about it. How much time to you spend
taking care of your stuff? Add it up. Wouldn't you like more time in your life
that doesn't include taking care of your stuff? Time to enjoy the company of
your friends. Time to read. Time to think.
Environmental Costs
Everything we buy costs energy to make. Much of that energy
comes out of the ground in the Middle East or the tar sands of Canada. Fracking
in North Dakota or Pennsylvania. Is that really a good idea?
Everything we buy has to be disposed of eventually. If it
can't be reused or recycled, it ends up in a hole in the ground. Is that really
a good idea?
Other Costs
When we have more stuff, we have more to lose. So we worry
about losing our stuff. Or we worry about it getting damaged. We have been
taught to equate possessions with success. In American English, it's called
"keeping up with the Jones's", where we feel we have to buy something
because our neighbor did. We are taught to believe we have to do it to be
happy. It's a lie. The more stuff we own, the more we have to worry about.
There are other costs of owning all that stuff. Everything
wears out or gets old. You have to replace that stuff. More cost. More worry.
More anxiety.
We don't usually like to think about it, but we are all
mortal. What happens to all our stuff when we are gone? Chances are high that
our heirs will throw away or give away almost everything.
Final Thoughts
For those of my readers that are Christians:
"Do not store
up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where
thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves
treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves
do not break in and steal." ~ Matthew 6:19 to 6:20
"And he said to them, 'Take
care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one's life does not
consist in the abundance of his possessions.'" ~ Luke 12:15
For those of my readers that are Buddhists:
The truth of the origin of dukkha
~ Second Noble Truth
"Your money, your
respectability, your power, your prestige — they all can be taken away from
you. That which can be taken away from you creates a clinging in the mind. You
become poorer and poorer, because you have to cling more and more, you have to
protect more and more, and you are always afraid and trembling." ~ Osho
For those of my readers that are philosophers:
"It is preoccupation with
possessions, more than anything else, that prevents us from living freely and
nobly." ~ Bertrand Russell
"Anything
you cannot relinquish when it has outlived its usefulness possesses you, and in
this materialistic age a great many of us are possessed by our possessions.”
- Mildred Lisette Norman (Peace Pilgrim)
What's that you are saying? "I deserve it. I worked
hard for my money!" Have you ever seen how hard someone has to work for
subsistence living or at minimum wage? Working hard does not mean that we
deserve anything. We all have to work hard. Only the wealthy can afford to be
lazy. I was fortunate enough to have born in a country where I have the opportunity
to make enough money that I never have to worry about being hungry or having a
roof over my head. I wish everyone had that opportunity.
I'm not saying that we shouldn't have anything. We're not
monks or nuns. I'm saying we should buy what we need and no more. I have lots
of tools of many kinds: my computer, cooking utensils, chairs, tables, etc. I
need them. We need some decoration and/or art in our lives. I have some art on
the walls. I have some music. I'm getting rid of most of my books, but I do
have thousands of books on my computer.
Get good stuff so you don't have to keep replacing it. Don't
get attached. Don't cling to your possessions. Don't let the desire for more
"stuff" drive our actions and our thinking. That's a dead end that
causes endless misery and anxiety.
Tell me again why you believe that owning "stuff"
makes you feel good?
© 2013 Eric Borreson